Family Mediation is a Good Thing. This is not one of my ‘dilemmas’ I talked about last time. I used to be a family solicitor and I KNOW how much *better *cheaper *faster it is to sit down with your soon-to-be-ex, and work out how to split your assets and share your kids. If you love your kids more than you hate your partner, it’s a no-brainer. Go the mediation route and you end up with more assets to split (rather than sharing it with the solicitors) and a co-parent you can still co-parent with.
But here’s the rub. There’s not much money in mediation, and there’s an awful lot of money in full blown contested divorce proceedings. Family Mediators aren’t in it for the big bucks and so they don’t have the resources to spread the word effectively about the benefits of Mediation. People still think Mediation is either medITation or conciliation. This is not an effort to get people back together, it’s an effort to get them apart in a dignified manner. It’s all good, there’s no flip side.
So my dilemma that keeps me awake at night is this. When good news stories are not news at all, and there’s no money to spread the word, HOW do we get people picking up the phone to a mediator when they decide to separate, rather than a solicitor?